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  I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

  by scared and lonely in

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  i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

  i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

  i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

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  Finklestein

  Please read my other posts in this thread.

  I promise it is not a scam and I want the link removed. I am genuinely sorry.

  To answer your points:

  1. If I get disassociated or disfellowshipped I will be told to leave the house ...legal or not.

  2. As I have said, my situation is too far down the road just to sit and fade. (I wish I had come here sooner)

  3. Yes I am an adult however even adults get scared. . I can't face staying in my home town. I will have to move away to a place where nobody knows me. For the first time in my life I will not have a network of friends or family, Being scared does not make me immature.

  Other than that, I understand your concern and am trying to remove the link.
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  I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

  by scared and lonely in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

  i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

  i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

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  scared and lonely

  HI tornintwo

  That is good advice.

  They were kind at first but their attitude is becoming more exasperated and irritated now.

  I am so low that I can't them for any more meetings with them at the moment.

  I am frantically reading all the advice I can on this site. It has info that I wish I read months even years ago.
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  I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

  by scared and lonely in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

  i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

  i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

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  James

  I understand what you are saying.

  I should never have posted it, I am genuinely sorry. I feel ashamed now as it was a stupid thing to do.

  In my defence it was out of desperation and not anything more sinister than that.

  I hope to redeem myself over time.
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  I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

  by scared and lonely in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

  i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

  i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

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  Nicolaou

  I don't have any non JW relatives...at least ones that I am close to. My family is like a little JW Dynasty. I am practically related to everybody in the circuit.
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  I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

  by scared and lonely in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

  i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

  i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

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  scared and lonely

  My apologies

  I am trying to remove the link in my second post but the edit button is not appearing.
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  I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

  by scared and lonely in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

  i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

  i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

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  scared and lonely

  Thank you Lisarose and Tornintwo for your lovely advice.

  I really appreciate it.

  I wish I found this group sooner as I could have done with the support over the past few months. I am quite far down the road now and the elders have gone from 'concerned' to 'annoyed'. I am an irritation to them now and they want it resolved.

  This time last year I was the Watchtower study conductor. Things have changed so fast.

  Thanks again. I appreciate it so much.
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  I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

  by scared and lonely in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

  i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

  i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

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  Wannexit

  Sorry. I honestly don't mean to offend.

  I set up the account but didn't realise that it relied so much on social media so I may as well delete it as I can't put it on my social media page. I thought it would be found on the Gofund site.

  I am doing so much reading and research at the moment that it is all very overwhelming and time is not on my side. I literally don't have one acquaintance outside of the congregation and I have never felt so lonely in my life.I will definitely be reading up on the information like you suggest.

  I will remove it if it offends people. I value your advice and the last thing I want to do is annoy anybody.

  My apologies :(
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  Fading tactic that worked well for me

  by traveb in

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  if you read some of my past posts you’ll know that i’ve successfully faded while being able to keep contact with my immediate family, who are still very devout jws.

  when i did finally completely stop attending meetings, my family, and especially my parents (elder father and pioneer mom), were of course very interested to know the reasons why.

  at first i deflected their questions, stating that i had personal reasons and did not want to explain myself.

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  Clarity

  Thank you so much for your kind and reassuring post. I appreciate it very much.

  I am still at the feeling guilty stage where I feel really bad from visiting this and other sites because of what has been drummed into me about apostasy. However, it is opening my eyes and showing me that things are not so dark on the other side.

  You post has given me hope.

  Thank you for being so kind
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  I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

  by scared and lonely in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

  i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

  i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

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  scared and lonely

  Thank you for the kind messages of support.

  We have been warned about going online and looking at anti-witness information and told that the world is an awful place so I haven't dared look at any information until this weekend.

  What I found has opened my eyes. :(
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  I am leaving the JW's . I am alone and scared. Advice and help needed please

  by scared and lonely in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  i am sorry that on my first post i am asking for help and advice but i am at my wits end.

  i have been brought up a witness all my life and it is all i know.

  i am an ex-elder and pioneer and i don't know anybody outside of the congregation.. i have been unhappy for so long and wanted to leave.

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  scared and lonely

  PS. I am not sure if this is allowed or not ...I am sorry if it isn't....but I am in a desperate situation. :(

  I have set up a funding page.

  Please help me to escape

  I am NOT asking you to give anything but please would you be kind enough to share the page on your social media accounts to spread the word

  I can't do it on my Facebook and instagram account as I am trying to stay anonymous from the congregation while I plan my escape.

  I hope that nobody is offended by this. I just don't know what else to do or who to turn to.

  Thank you